Have you ever experienced thoughts that are negative? Well, you are part of 99.9% of the world. The thing about us is that we entertain them instead of rebuking them.
This is why many people act on evil impulses like( stealing, coveting, fornication, deceiving people, envy, taking advantage of people, depression, cursing others, etc…
The enemy doesn’t have control over us only if we allow it. It all starts in the MIND!!!
Yah gave us power over every unclean spirit.
The power to control the narrative(to a certain extent) of our lives. We are the gatekeepers of what we entertain: media, people, food, and thoughts.
The way we combat this is by:
Purring all thoughts into captivity- 2 Corinthians 10:5
Rebuking the enemy- James 4:7
Think about good things- Phillipians 4:8
Our desires not of this world, but on the things above-Romans 12:2
Putting on the full armor of Yah-Ephesians 6:11
I know a lot of us still struggle with certain things. I still deal with anxiety from time to time which leads to rumating thoughts. One thing we have to do is to make a daily choice to fight to choose who we will serve.
Is it ourselves? the enemy? or the most high Yah? ~Choose this day on who you will serve~Joshua 24:15
I was pondering this question for the past 2 weeks. What seeds am I planting in all aspects of my life?
-Health
-Motherhood
-Legacy
-Business
-Family
etc…
A lot of people don’t realize that they’re living life on autopilot or their own will and that’s detrimental. You have to be mindful of what you are doing at all times so that you can continue to make strides in the right direction. For women who are married, ask your head about what seeds you need to plant in certain areas of your life, so he can direct you on the fruit you should bear under his headship.
Overall, a woman should strive to exceed in all areas of her life to be the best version of herself. She will be able to pour into her head, family, and others. For instance:
Health:
-Establish an exercise routine
-Eating a clean diet
-Skincare routine
-Time to nourish the soul
Motherhood:
-Teaching the children the ways of Yah
-Giving children the tools to be successful in all areas of their life
-Be an example of what they should strive to be
Legacy:
-Helping your master produce seed
-Helping to grow generational wealth and giving an inheritance to your children
-Passing down the ways of Yah generationally
Business:
-With permission from your master(if married), generating income to build the home by operating a business, helping in the family business, or from work
Family, friends, and sisterhood:
-Looking out for them and being a tool to sharpen one another
Charity:
-Helping those in need
-Helping other women on their journey
So the question for you is, What fruit do you want to bear?
Children have a way of using their essence to get what they want like a woman. The thing is a child at first don’t recognize their actions as manipulation because they haven’t been taught. Since I’ve gained an understanding of why manipulation is a sin, I’ve been catching my daughter on her behaviors and correcting them.
.Repeat the same thing
When your child repeats the same thing over and over again you eventually do what they want you to do.
Example: I told my daughter that I will do any activity with her later. She continues to say out loud,” when are we going to do an activity, activity, activity!” By repeating herself, she thinks I will do it right now when she wants me to.
2. Try to persuade you
They will try to sway your opinion on not to do something
Example: Your child says I will clean my toys if you let me play longer.
3. Nudge you in a certain direction
Not being direct, but passive to get their way
Example: Huffing and puffing or making noises to get your attention to do something.
4. Using their voice and body language
Fixing their face either it’s displeasing or sweet and using gestures to get what they want.
Example: Your child tugging at your clothes with big doe eyes to get you that toy they want at the store. You tell them not now, but they insist on using these tactics to get what they want.
Both genders can be manipulative, but daughters have a way of doing this times 10. I’ve come to realize these actions of submissiveness start as a child. if not corrected, your child will grow to be entitled and learn to not subject themselves to leadership under their husbands.
So, don’t think you to hard on them. For I thought the same, but it’s necessary to raise them up on the way they should go. If not, they will subject themselves to the mindset of the world and you see how that’s a failure.
If I’ve missed something or you have additional input, feel free to share it in the comments.
~Being like Sarah in how she called Abraham Master & submitted to him when in the presence of Pharoah and the Assyrians.~
A lot of us think that submission is optional. That “I” only submit under the “right conditions”, but like Yah requires complete obedience, the marriage reflects Yahs order.
Look at the example of Abraham when he didn’t question Yah about sacrificing his son Yisqak ~Gensesis 22. He showed his love for Yah through his submission in all things and got rewarded for it.
We, women, have to stop playing the fence on this. Yah requires us to be helpmeets and keepers at home. One of our sole purpose in life is to be a helpmeet to a man and raise a righteous legacy.
Yes, Yah can use women for other things as well, but our focus is on what we were created here to do. Why don’t you think that it says,” We can win our husbands without a word, but by our conduct” ~ 1 peter 1-2? Staying in our roles no matter what shows who we sere. If the man is doing wrong, It’s not our place to mother him or put him in his place, but by prayers and obedience, Yah will stir the direction of your husband because of your Righteousness. You don’t know if what your husband is requiring you to do”that seems wrong” is what Yah is not telling him to do. You are supposed to submit to his authority.
Now listen, I’m not saying it’s ok to follow your husband into sin. I would suggest asking your husband if he’s in the truth about it and showing him humbly in the scriptures about it. If your husband genuinely follows the most high he won’t lead you to sin willingly. If he’s not in the faith, keep striving in righteousness if you can still work it out.
Our submission should not look like the world version.
~The gate to the kingdom is narrow but wide is the gate to hell~Matt 7:13-14
We should serve our masters on earth as doing it onto Yah
Let us not be a stumbling block to our husband, children, or ourselves and strictly focus on what Yah requires from us.
Many of us woman has bought into the lie of wanting to be something outside of our true purpose
We are told:
-We don’t need a man
-We can do what men do
-We are equal to a man
-We can do everything
Etc…
All these things have been a setback in building up strong families. We’re taught that being like men will make us successful and attract men. Although, the results have shown the opposite. Now we are dealing with an imbalance that throws the whole dynamic out of wack. Men are backing down or turning away from women in a union. They don’t feel like they should be a man and give the benefits to a woman that shows they don’t need them. The lack of polarity gives little inspiration and drive to a man to play his role with passion. We are left with pride, arrogance, and willfulness in modern women. Traditional women have become non-existent in the western world. The mindset left from embodying the feminist ideologies in this society has left a lot of women ineligible to be wife material. The lack of a moral compass has made a lot of women want to wander about the world like a harlot. Leading to plenty of soul ties, trauma, children out of wedlock, diseases inability to pair-bond, and most importantly being less likely to be a help-meet to one man. Thus passing down the baton to their children to perpetuate the same cycle. I’m not saying a modern woman doesn’t have a chance, but accountability plus repentance with the highest that she can change her life around.
~The High Yah calls us to be a woman like Sarah
~The older woman is supposed to teach us the same instead of teaching us what not to be
Our power is walking in our feminity. A woman has the power to tear down her home and that’s what a lot of modern women are doing
We are supposed to be
Meek
Chaste
Shamefacedness
Lovers of Yah
Strive to be the Proverbs 31 attributes
This is what our men need. A man of Yah will find this more valuable than all.
We suppose to do what Yah requires because it pleases Yah and we are doing it for him.
If we can’t remain in order and have self-control over our lives, how will we deem worthy of a role in the kingdom with Yahshua?
When I think about children, I think about how they are like sponges. Their joy and abundance of love they have. Not only are they curious about the world around them, but really just taking in every bit of information that comes their way.
We as parents are the gatekeepers of what we allow our children to absorb.
If we teach them the ways of the Most High, they will grow towards righteousness. But, If we allow others that are not in alignment with Yah, the media, and the world to teach them; It will lead them to be corrupt.
1. Teach Prayer
It’s never too early to teach them how to pray. I started praying with my daughter as a toddler. She learned how to lift her hands up to the Most High as a babe. Try prayer and talking to your child about Yah. They are absorbing all that you are saying to them. Don’t be surprised if they start praising Yah out of the blue
2. Daily Talks
Talking with your child first thing in the morning throughout the day helps them stay in line. You can talk to them about expectations, the commandments, how to behave, and tasks for the day. Children need constant repetition on what to do so that they can be trained in that way.
3. Discipline
Children need to be corrected as soon as they error. If you don’t, that can lead them down the path of continued error. You don’t have to resort to butt whoopens right away. You can start by talking with them and explaining to them why it was wrong, and how to correct it. When they continue to do that error after you’ve talked to them, then that’s when the rod can come into play. You can also incorporate a rewards system so that they can be encouraged to do the right thing on a continuous basis. Show your child appreciation and love when they are doing things right. It will make them want to do it more.
4. Reading and teaching the word
How will they know about Yah if you don’t teach them? I’m not only talking about shoving it down their throat all the time but actual embodiment. I mean, them seeing you embody how it is to serve the Most High. Children not only learn by mouth but really by example. Their first teachers are the parents. As the saying goes,” The child is a reflection of a parent”. You can definitely look at your child as a thermometer of how you are acting.
5.Spending time together
They are not going to remember what you give but the time spent together. Make time with your children. Bond with them. They will remember and cherish these moments when they grow older. A lot of childhood trauma comes from how parents dealt with their children. Be a positive and active influence in their life to remember.
Buying Laundry Soap can get expensive after a while. The chemicals in branded detergent are also a health risk. Who would have thought that you can use basic ingredients that are used for multipurpose to get your clothes squeaky clean? You only need to spend $20-30 for 1 year worth of detergent. That’s a lot of money being saved. Most of these items I found on Amazon, but you can definitely find them at Walmart or other stores.
What you will need:
Baking Soda
Castile Soap Bars
Borax
Washing Soda
Cost about $25
Step 1.
Get a 5 Gallon Bucket
Step 2.
Shave the Castile Soap bars in a grater or use a food processor
3. Add Baking Soda, Borax, Washing Soda
4. Mix it together and store it away( Last for 6-1 year depending on use)
This recipe can be converted to liquid or be used as dry. Use about 2 tbsp for the dry version and a scoop for liquid.
I made a monthly plan for myself to work on different aspects of love. I put my focus on working on one thing a month. My focus this year is leveling myself up not only physically but spiritually. I don’t want anything to get in the way of what Yah has in store for me and for future blessing. My intentions are to clean out any fifth within my heart. Anything from past hurts, disappointments, and wrong-doings made by others that I allowed to affect me negatively. This month of January is working on any hidden resentment or unforgiveness.
From studying emotions and how negative emotions leave a major effect on the body. Negative emotions store in the body will cause dis-ease in the body and mental illness(Will do a separate article on that soon). This not only impacts you physically but spiritually you will be out of alignment with the higher power (Yah). Which he calls us to be perfect like he is perfect. How can we be a light to others, if we have darkness within us?
‘Rather, love your enemies, and do good, and lend, expecting none in return. And your reward shall be great, and you shall be sons of the Most High. Because He is kind to the thankless and wicked ones. “And do not judge, and you shall not be judged at all. Condemn not, and you shall not be condemned at all. Forgive, and you shall be forgiven.’
(Luke) 6:35,37
‘“Be wroth, but do not sin.” Do not let the sun go down on your rage, nor give place to the devil. Let all bitterness, and wrath, and displeasure, and uproar, and slander be put away from you, along with all evil. And be kind towards one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as Yah also forgave you in Messiah.’
(Ephesians) 4:26-27,31-32
‘But now, also put off all these: displeasure, wrath, evil, blasphemy, filthy talk from your mouth. Therefore, as chosen ones of Yah, set-apart and beloved, put on compassion, kindness, humbleness of mind, meekness, patience, bearing with one another, and forgiving each other if anyone has a complaint against another, indeed, as Messiah forgave you so also should you.’
(Colossians) 3:8,12-13
‘Tremble, and do not sin. Speak within your heart on your bed, and be still. Selah.’
(Psalms) 4:4
‘“And as you wish men should do to you, you also do to them in the same way.’
(Luke) 6:31
‘ Abstain from displeasure, and forsake wrath; Do not fret, also to do evil.’
(Psalms) 37:8
‘A man’s discretion makes him patient, And his adorning is to pass over a transgression.’
(Proverbs) 19:11
‘Repay no one evil for evil. Respect what is right in the sight of all men. If possible, on your part, be at peace with all men. Beloved, do not revenge yourselves, but give place to the wrath, for it has been written, “Vengeance is Mine, I shall repay,” says Yah. “Instead, if your enemy hungers, feed him; if he thirsts, give him a drink, for in so doing you shall heap coals of fire on his head.” Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.’
(Romans) 12:17-21
‘“For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father shall also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their trespasses, neither shall your Father forgive your trespasses.’
(Matthew) 6:14-15
‘“And if your brother sins against you, go and convict him, between you and him alone. If he hears you, you have gained your brother. But if he does not hear, take with you one or two more, that ‘by the mouth of two or three witnesses every word might be established.’ “And if he refuses to hear them, say it to the assembly. And if he refuses even to hear the assembly, let him be to you like the nations and a tax collector. Then Kĕpha came to Him and said, “Master, how often shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? Up to seven times?” Yah said to him, “I do not say to you, up to seven times, but up to seventy times seven.’
(Matthew) 18:15-17,21-22
‘“And whenever you stand praying, if you hold whatever against anyone, forgive, so that your Father in the heavens shall also forgive you your trespasses.’
(Mark) 11:25
‘Hatred stirs up strife, But love covers all transgressions.’
As a stay at home single mom, It can be daunting at times to manage the home and do the things you need to do make money. I want to make sure I’m tackling the things I need to tackle without burning myself out or extending my time that can be used for other things. Here are some tips that help me.
Pick a day
Pick a day when you can really get down to the nitty-gritty of cleaning. For instance, my days are Wednesdays. On Wednesdays, I do basic cleaning such as sweeping, mopping, wiping things down, vacuuming, laundry, and dusting. I believe if you dedicate a day to do a major cleaning, it will totally make life easier.
2. Use your time wisely
Put specific time aside that day to focus on cleaning. To really save time, it helps to clean-up throughout each day. If you do this, it prevents a huge load dumped on you on your dedicated cleaning day. So do your best to keep things tidy every day.
3.Do what’s important
Don’t stress yourself about doing everything. Especially as a single working stay-at-home mom your time is limited. Focus on the places that get dirty the most and leave everything else for another time if you have to. It’s all about making things work for you and not for it. Hey we are not here to be stressed out because that’s not life at all ” I’m just sayin”
